This one is interesting, because most people are obviously going to think "but how does it show I care if we fight?"
I know, because I thought it too when my mother told me this. But as time has grown on and I've grown up and been in my own relationship, she was never more honest.
Arguments in relationships mean that you care enough about the person to want to keep them safe or from doing something that may hurt them.
It also means that you are paying attention to each other enough that small things you notice that they do, may be irritating. But it's ok.
Here's a book I would recommend to read for readers. Check it out if you want:
Thursday, July 31, 2014
Could friends be affecting your relationship?
Everyone has dealt with it at some point: those friends that claim your spouse every day of the weekend every week.
First, sometimes this starts arguments. Why? Because often times these friends expect everything to be dropped when they say they are leaving. But what if you and him are busy with your time with each other. After working 5 days a week, all you want is one day where you get to spend time with your spouse. But the friends think other-wise. They don't realize that, though you do live together, you don't necessarily always get to spend alone time together after work. After long days, it's easier to come home and relax, not come home and have to leave again for date night.
Some advice for these issues: have a talk with the friends. Let them know that you don't mind your spouse seeing them a couple times a month for beers at the bar or pool night, but you need some time with him as well. As long as you keep it polite, there's no reason they shouldn't understand.
First, sometimes this starts arguments. Why? Because often times these friends expect everything to be dropped when they say they are leaving. But what if you and him are busy with your time with each other. After working 5 days a week, all you want is one day where you get to spend time with your spouse. But the friends think other-wise. They don't realize that, though you do live together, you don't necessarily always get to spend alone time together after work. After long days, it's easier to come home and relax, not come home and have to leave again for date night.
Some advice for these issues: have a talk with the friends. Let them know that you don't mind your spouse seeing them a couple times a month for beers at the bar or pool night, but you need some time with him as well. As long as you keep it polite, there's no reason they shouldn't understand.
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
Looking??
If you're looking for someone, or just want help in general on your relationship, here are some good books to check out.
Marriage
I was on Facebook the other day and noticed a pretty heated fight between a girl and her family.
About her idea to marry her boyfriend of 3 weeks.
She was upset people were criticizing her for her decision. However, many of the people she was lashing out at were trying to tell her that marriage was hard and she needed to consider this more.
I understand that it does suck when people try to offer advice and tell you what they think you should do, but that is only because they care.
Now, I'm not married, but I've lived with my fiance' for two years now. And yes, I can vouch that it is difficult. It is not a cake walk. You have to try everyday. And when you've tried and tried and seem to be getting nowhere, keep trying. Don't let relationships walk out the door.
Stop to think, when you argue, what seems to be the issues? Honestly, in my relationship, it is usually because I always sound irritated and he takes it personally. So I've been working on that, and he's been working on helping around the house more. Simple.
But getting married after a 3 week relationship is not smart. You haven't had enough time to know the person. It is different between just being in a relationship and actually living with the person. So just be patient. If it's meant to be, then it'll work out. If not, then you just saved yourself a lot of money.
About her idea to marry her boyfriend of 3 weeks.
She was upset people were criticizing her for her decision. However, many of the people she was lashing out at were trying to tell her that marriage was hard and she needed to consider this more.
I understand that it does suck when people try to offer advice and tell you what they think you should do, but that is only because they care.
Now, I'm not married, but I've lived with my fiance' for two years now. And yes, I can vouch that it is difficult. It is not a cake walk. You have to try everyday. And when you've tried and tried and seem to be getting nowhere, keep trying. Don't let relationships walk out the door.
Stop to think, when you argue, what seems to be the issues? Honestly, in my relationship, it is usually because I always sound irritated and he takes it personally. So I've been working on that, and he's been working on helping around the house more. Simple.
But getting married after a 3 week relationship is not smart. You haven't had enough time to know the person. It is different between just being in a relationship and actually living with the person. So just be patient. If it's meant to be, then it'll work out. If not, then you just saved yourself a lot of money.
When Life Gives You Lemons
Make lemonade?
Nah, I don’t think so.
If you make lemonade with nothing but lemons, you’re going to be puckered up for a while. So ask for some sugar and water too.
When life starts to feel like it’s monotonous and just gets more difficult everyday, don’t just go with the flow. Add something to make it better. Find something in the shadows that mean something to you. Things that make you happy and want to laugh.
You can’t let everything in life get you down. Sometimes life gets hard, but it’ll get better.
Just remember: it’s storming now, but it can’t rain forever. The sun will shine eventually.
Love, Life, Relationships, and Heartache
As we grow older, we start to realize the world is a cruel place. People lie and cheat and steal to have what they want. While all the honest and good-hearted people are left in the shadows, watching somebody else live their dreams.
Ok, I’m going to be honest. That’s about as depressing I can be right. Honestly, I’m in a rather good mood. Everything seems to be working out in life and I have a funny TV show on. I guess the main question would honestly be, “why in the world did I choose to create this blog? Why this name?”
Well, I chose to create the blog for a few reasons.
1) to write about stuff
2) Aphrodite is the Goddess of Love, Sex, and Beauty. Since I want a blog devoted towards love and life, I figured it was a good fit considering she's the Goddess of my sign, Taurus. And I just love the idea of love.
3) Helps to obtain freelance jobs
Not going to lie, but I am literally nobody completely special. I don’t have a college degree in psychology (which is ok, because that means I don’t have any loans to pay either). I only have my own observations of people and how they react to everyday life and issues in their relationships. While some people appear to have the perfect relationship, you never know what goes on later at the person’s house.
Now, I’m not meaning abuse, thought that is definitely something that can happen. I’m meaning the “perfect” couple may argue continuously throughout the night. When people see them, though, they appear to be perfect.
So, this is just a bunch of different advice all packed into one blog. Some of it will be funny, some sad, some happy, but either way, it will all be content that can easily be related to.
Remember, it doesn’t rain forever, use tomorrow to be brand new
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